What is the basic building block of a society
I’ve scoured the internet,
spending minutes of my life searching for something, anything that would
suggest I am wrong, but there was nothing.
Most of what I find supports the theory -- that going back to our earliest
times the family group has been the basis for society. It is not the individual, a political party,
or even a group of friends. It is the
family. There are all kinds of cliché
about this, starting with “blood is thicker than water,” and moving into “the
nuclear family.” The historical
perspective was a core family has a mother, a father, and their children. From those grow the “extended” family of
grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc..
The roles of the parents have had some flexibility, but we will get into
that in a bit.
In Ms. Clinton’s appropriation of
an African proverb about it taking a village to raise a child she misses the
main point of the proverb. She suggests
it is the role of the village to raise and train the child to conform,
suggesting that role should be fulfilled by the government. In looking at historical African village
concepts they are generally centered around a single-family group which is a
part of a larger tribe. There is in its
center the “alpha” family and then the extended uncles, aunts, cousins and
nephews of the chief. Polygamy was not
unheard of and like a pride of lions there would be one chief with multiple wives. But the point remains in the proverb you can
replace “it takes a village” with “it takes a family.”
Modern idealists say children are
born innocent and are corrupted by the world.
I’m sorry, but I have to take issue with the premise a child is born
innocent or guilty. I don’t intend to
get into the idea of sin or religion, but children are born without
knowledge. A lack of knowledge is not
the same thing as innocence. I believe
it is their inherent survival instinct that guides their earliest actions. They know only what they need or want, and
concern for anything else is nonexistent.
If they are hungry or soiled they demand attention, and from those
initial demands they begin to develop learned behaviors. The psychology of child development seems to
be fairly well researched, at least within the standards of Western European
culture. There must be a thousand books
or websites available to help guide parents into what the experts say is a “normal”
development. My parents had Dr. Spock
and today’s parents have a bunch of radicals suggesting just how to make the
perfect child. Of course, all of this is
based on rigid (or rigged) research to support the researchers claims. Behavioral psychology, it seems, has fallen
out of favor these days, but I recall the research of Dr. B.F. Skinner who kept
his infant daughter in an enclosed box so he could study her in an environment
without human interaction/nurturing.
This quote from Dr. John B.
Watson helps understand why the behaviorists don’t seem to be in the news too
much but it was the progressive thought of the early 20th century. What I find intriguing though is how closely
it aligns to modern progressive thinking.
The government can shape the individual if they are just allowed to do
so.
“Give me a dozen healthy infants,
well-formed, and my own specified world to bring them up in and I'll guarantee
to take any one at random and train him to become any type of specialist I
might select—doctor, lawyer, artist, merchant-chief and, yes, even beggar-man
and thief, regardless of his talents, penchants, tendencies, abilities,
vocations, and race of his ancestors.”
Historical roles within the family.
Now let’s think about the
historical roles within the family, at least as understood in the culture our
society is based on (western Europe).
Father – The historical
understanding of the Father is as a provider for the family. He was the hunter, the farmer, the income
provider, the manual laborer, and a role-model for the male children. Looking at the religions that have formed to
add a consistent moral basis for societies.
The father has been portrayed as the leader of the family group. When it came time for decisions to be made
the father would be the decider.
Obviously, there is a real spread in the quality of fathers, some being
outstanding and others not so much.
Mother – She was the provider of
life, the nourisher of the children, the support for her husband, and a
provider for the family in his absence or out of necessity. The mother was both the role model for the
female children as well as the provider of most of the early training in the
roles the children would grow to fill.
Often, she was the rock of morality that anchored the family unit. Just as with fathers there will always be
exceptional mothers who fulfill their roles in a way that leave others in awe.
Child – Children come into the
world as empty vessels. They know only
themselves, and even than they don’t know themselves very well. How they are to grow and become a part of the
family, the community, or the society are all open questions that remain to be
answered. The first and forever most
important teachers are the parents. The
child’s view of self, his/her role, his/her value, his/her nature are all
derived from and expanded by their relationship with first their parents and
then their extended family. If these
lessons are negative ones then the quality of their future learning will be at
risk as well. Members of the extended
family may fill in gaps, or help augment the role of parents, but they are
unlikely to ever completely replace the shortcomings of a poor parent.
There is an interesting truth in
our humanity. It is impossible to make
blanket statements applying universally across all individuals. There are outstanding individuals who grow to
be good parents despite a lack of strong role models. There are also individuals who fail to grasp
the lessons and examples of good role models and end up being failures in their
attempts at being adults and/or parents.
But, that being said, what have we been doing to our concepts of family,
and as a result what are the impacts to our society?
That is a question for tomorrow.